Mixed

I’m sorry that we couldn’t celebrate our fourth year together, too.

I have mixed feelings about finally hearing some of the things I had wanted you to say. I wish people didn’t have to lose something to learn something.

I don’t think it’s naïve to believe in lasting love in a marriage. I think relationships and marriage should be full of it. But this love must be maintained actively and thoughtfully; that’s part of the “work,” I believe. Did you really not realize that our relationship should be helping us bring out the best version of ourselves? I don’t think you entirely missed this.

In any case, you did bring out a lot of good in me. And you also came out of your shell a lot throughout the relationship. You don’t need to be hard on yourself. You really did your best.

Thank you for saying that. How would you be a sculptor?